"Just Tell Them...

I have worked 40 years to make the Women's Suffrage platform broad enough for Atheists and Agnostics to stand upon, and now if need be I will fight the next 40 to keep it Catholic enough to permit the straightest Orthodox religionist to speak or pray and count her beads upon."

Susan B. Anthony

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Why Do Men Who Kill Their Wives Imagine Themselves Victims? (Hassan and Widmer both found guilty.)

Mo Hassan's jury deliberated for just under and hour.

Ryan Widmer's jury took about 12 hours to find him guilty.

Both men stand accused of killing their wives. Both, it seems, see themselves as victims. One man, Hassan, engaged in a form of "honor killing" by beheading. While the other, Widmer, simply drowned his wife in a bathtub.

Still, the similarity in the two men's reactions has me puzzled. I have to wonder why? Why do two men, from very different cultures, murder their wives and then imagine themselves victims??

Is it a form of sociopathy? Or is there another dynamic in play??

What say you?


  1. Anonymous1:26 AM

    My two cents' worth:

    For women to question the patriarchy in any way is to question the central fallacy (phallacy?) of all male-centric cultures, i.e., the fallacy (phallacy?) of the superiority of males, upon which the fragile sexual identity/prowess of males in those cultures depends. Any males thus threatened feel “emasculated” and, therefore, “victimized.” Males who are thus threatened, particularly those who are most insecure in their grasp of “masculinity,” strike back against the women who question their superiority/prowess/masculinity by the use of physical violence--the beast’s and the barbarian’s only sure way of protecting and perpetuating the fallacy (phallacy?).

  2. yttik1:49 PM

    5 Keys to the Psychology of an Honor Killer

    Phyllis Chesler


  3. Two excellent responses.

    And the fascinating thing... to me... is that, while one of these murders was an "honor killing." The other was not. Yet both men fancy themselves "victims."